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All Stepmoms Are Not Created Equal
 
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HEY! I'M JAMIE

I'm a coffee & wine loving second wife, stepmom, and mom on a mission to debunk the stigma associated with being a stepmom. Fuelled by coffee, wine and positive vibes, I write candidly about our blended life and help fellow stepmoms live a KICK-ASS Life amongst, the extra stressors that come with marrying a man with kids! 

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So about that secondary fertility we’ve been dealing with. I’ve been pretty quiet about it over here, mostly because there hasn’t been much to say. We’re still trying, it’s still sh*tty, I’m still trying to keep my head on straight. To be honest it’s been a tough season. . I was going to stay quiet, but given that October is Pregnancy + Infant Loss Awareness month, I felt like I should at least say something. So I’ll say this... . Infertility is so sh*tty and heartbreaking and exhausting and did I say sh*tty? If you’re dealing with it too, you know exactly what I mean. It’s something you can’t really understand unless you’ve experienced it. . If you’re in this season too, feel all the feels my friend. Allow yourself to be sad and upset. It’s okay not to be okay. But please beautiful, don’t pack up and stay in that not okay place. It can be so hard to think of anything else, but you have to at least try. Or else it can get REALLY dark. . Amongst this heartache there ARE things to be grateful for. And if you let yourself wallow too much, you’ll lose sight of all the good. . We’ve been dealing with this for over two years now and each month it doesn’t get any easier. I give myself the day to be sad. I cry in my husbands arms, as he whisperers “I really thought it would happen this month”. I eat chips in bed, and watch my favourite show, I google fertility treatments and read chatroom convos filled with women who are dealing with the same thing. . But the next morning, even though I want to lay in bed and keep crying, I dust myself off and get back to life. Our crazy, beautiful yet sometimes really tough life. . We have to remember. No one has the perfect life. Everyone has a struggle. This is ours. For some, the struggle is worse than others... but the feelings of hopelessness are the same. . So my beautiful friend, please remember this. There’s nothing wrong with you. You’re not alone. You’re stronger than you think. And please please make sure you’re taking care of yourself 🖤
“I feel like I’ve been yelling all week” “I feel like you have too” my husband replied 🤣 . Straight up, these two have been REALLY trying this week. And well, you can only politely ask someone to get their boots on, and stop chewing shoes so many times until it’s necessary to raise the tone a bit 🤷‍♀️ it’s like HELLO IS THIS THING ON? Anyways, today I’m grateful for a slow moving weekend and the opportunity to regroup for next week - I’m not sure who is tougher to train, the sassy four-year-old or the puppy.... but combined they’re a force to be reckoned with #thisisreallife
What if all the stepmoms and all the moms realized they are on the same team? . What if there were no pissing matches and turf wars? . What if the kids were viewed as people, and not as timeshares? . What if it wasn’t about who is responsible for what, and just about making sure that the kids are taken care of? . What if stepmoms weren’t viewed as a threat and just an extra person to love the kids? . What if the moms weren’t viewed as the husbands ex, but as the mother of the most important people in the stepmoms lives. . What if it wasn’t about keeping score? . What if it stopped being a competition about who is the better parent, and started being an ongoing conversation about how to raise stand up kids . What if all the adults put their adult issues on the shelf, and focused on what truly matters. . What if? @nataalc
Do you resent the BS or struggles in your life or are you grateful for them? Full disclosure, I spent a long time being pretty angry about mine. But recently I’ve become freaking grateful for all the BS. • Why? because if didn’t go through all the things I have, I wouldn’t be living the life that I am today. Divorced parents, growing up separately from my siblings, dealing with other stuff that I’ll spare you the details of, anger and abandonment issues,  marrying a man with kids, our co-parenting struggles. I am grateful for ALL OF IT! • If my parents hadn’t gotten a divorce, I wouldn’t have been so passionate about sharing what stepfamily life is like from a child’s perspective. In fact, I wouldn’t have a perspective to share. • If I wasn’t such a sh*t growing up, I wouldn’t have the drive to prove family members wrong, and show them that I wasn’t destined for juvinelle detention (for the record, that is NOT an exaggeration. There were cops at my door and not just once) • If I hadn’t struggled so much during my first year as a stepmom I wouldn’t have been motivated to create real-life, solution focused support for other women like me. I wouldn’t feel so compelled to open up the conversation about blended family life and debunk the stigma that comes with this role. • To add a cherry on top, if I hadn’t been so overwhelmed when our daughter was born, I wouldn’t have needed a “girls-night out” and subsequently attended an event that introduced me to the world of blogging.I wouldn’t have known that any of this existed. . All of the struggles and mistakes came with lessons, that have brought me right here, right now. • Guys, there was a time in my life, as recent as last year, where I wouldn’t have said any of this out loud. At that point, I preferred that people thought I had it all together. But after receiving an outpour of gratitude from stepmoms after the release of my eBook 101 Ways TO Be A KICK-ASS Stepmom, I know that being real and straight up about everything I have learned has helped SO many other women feel normal. So if for every 1000 people who think it’s whacked that I say the things I do - 1 feels inspired, I’m good with that!
10 things I would tell a brand new STEPMOM... (and number 10 really should be 1) . 1. Perfection is BS... and simply unattainable. Then sooner you stop trying to pretend like you have it all together, the sooner you’ll feel like you kind of do. . 2. The way someone treats you is more about them than it is about you - BUT on the same note - the way you treat someone is more about YOU than it is about them! Keep yourself in check. . 3. Your husband will NEVER get used to not seeing his kids all the time. Be patient, be empathetic. When he has the kids and wants to overcompensate, don’t be too hard on him. When he wants to let them stay up past bed time, relax, yes routine is important but so are those special moments. . 4. There’s no shame in being the second. You get a better version of him. His first marriage shaped him into the man he is today - his experiences, his lessons, his mistakes, all made him better! . 5. Let time do it’s thing. It really does heal. . 6. You won’t always feel like the “second wife” - one day you won’t even think about the fact that you weren’t his first. . 7. If there is conflict between your husband and his ex ... take a back seat! Support your husband behind the scenes but keep your mouth shut. Your involvement won’t make it any better... I can pretty much guarantee that! . 8. Sitting around bitching about how hard being a stepmom is won’t make being a stepmom any easier... a positive and empathetic outlook is key. . 9. Ask yourself... if you were your stepkids would you like you? Would you respect you? Would you trust you? Remember they didn’t sign up for any of this! . 10. Always make sure your wine fridge is full... there will be many days when you need it.
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STEPMOM SUPPORT


STEPMOM SUPPORT


Do you ever wish there was a stepmom handbook? I know I sure did. When I couldn't find one, I decided to create one. 

As a Life Coach with a Specialization in Stepfamily Dynamics (and stepmom who's been there) I provide solution focused support to Stepmoms who want to THRIVE amongst the extra chaos that can and does come with stepfamily life. 

With a Honours BA in Psychology, a diploma in Social Service Work and 5+ years supporting families in crisis, I've combined my education & work experience with my personal experiences as both a stepmom and a child of divorce to create one-of-a-kind programs that Stepmoms are calling a total "stepfamily game changer" 

 

THE KICK-ASS STEPMOM PROJECT™

THE KICK-ASS STEPMOM COMMUNITY™ 

E-BOOK - 101 WAYS TO BE A KICK-ASS STEPMOM™  

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WHAT PEOPLE ARE SAYING...


WHAT PEOPLE ARE SAYING...


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“She’s changing the game in the stepmom world and creating a community for Stepmoms who love the role”
— Cat & Nat
“Jamie has been the most influential stepmom during my transition from single & childless to married & stepmama of two. I encourage any stepmom to join this community and enjoy the fun. ”
— Kendall Mann Price
“Jamie has an excellent grasp on how to gently guide others on positive step-parenting. She shares personal experiences and also offers advice on handling conflict or random situations that will inevitably pop up in the step-parenting role. Her ability to also focus one-on-one and in group settings is phenomenal - and I especially appreciate that her focus is based on positivity and resolution rather than a forum for ranting or bashing. I highly recommend her!””
— Jen | Blogger at Lemons into Vodka
“The thing I love about Jamie is that she has this amazing ability to provide excellent support and top-notch strategies while also being approachable, fun and relatable. She walks-the-talk in every way, sharing openly and honestly about her personal experiences with a focus on solutions and strengths. Her style is uplifting and empowering, arming other mothers with the practical tools they need to thrive”
— Kelly. Bourne | Georgetown ON