So today I turn 30.

I thought this would be a day where I would feel like,

“wow I am really a grown up”

As if the four kids in my 7 seater SUV wasn’t enough of a reminder

I anticipated feeling “older”. Like I am not in my 20’s and “youthful” anymore.

I don’t.

But, I figure with a husband who is 13 years older than me, I’ll always feel “young”.

The other day my husband asked can you still be a Poptart when you’re 30?”

I paused and then said …. “I don’t know? I hope so, because I’ve put a lot into this whole Poptart Gig.”

Which leads me to reason why I’m writing this post in the first place.

A few weeks back I started thinking about my 30th birthday and thought…

“Jeez I am no where near where I thought I would be in my career at 30.”

But not in the way that you’d expect.

When I first became a “Poptart”, and  then when I eventually became a “real mom”, everything I thought I knew about myself and what I wanted for my career went out the window.

My priorities changed. My dreams shifted.

his blog started out as something I used to vent and chat about my life as a stepmom.

Feeling overwhelmed and alone as a young woman dating a man with three kids, I did what we all do when we don’t know the answer, I went to google for support.

I was disappointed with what I found, so I decided I would start my own blog for stepmoms who didn’t want to bask in negativity, and who really wanted to make the whole “stepmom gig” as pleasurable as possible.

That was two years ago. Since then, I’ve been overwhelmed and humbled with the response from stepmoms from all over.

It turns out I was right, there truly is a need for some real, candid advice and support for the stepmoms out there.

Now, through my posts, collaborations, and Stepfamily Support + Coaching I  am able to help support other women who are in the same situation I was when I first joined the Stepmom Club.

Who would have thought the angry child of divorce who accidentally fell in love with a man with three kids and had zero experience in the parenting department would be solely dedicated to supporting stepfamilies plow through the turmoil that has been her own life?

But here I am  …

At 30, am I where I thought I would be? Absolutely not. I am somewhere so much better.

So today, feeling all nostalgic and wise after saying goodbye to my 20’s….

Reflecting on the past few years and planning for what I want to achieve before I hit the next decade milestone … I want to share a few ideas with you….

10 things I know for sure: My 10 truths

1. Never underestimate the power of surrounding yourself with positive + supportive people. It’s a serious game changer! Dwelling on the B.S in your life will make you physically sick… and give you wrinkles.

2. The way people treat you is far more about them than it is about you.

3. You are in charge of your own happiness.

4. A bottle of wine and a good girlfriend is the solution for many of life’s problems.

5. Our screw ups don’t define us… we are all human. Everyday is a new opportunity to be better than you were yesterday.

6. Social media isn’t real life. Striving for perfection will make you insane.

7.  Sleep isn’t for the weak. It’s for the brilliant.

8. You don’t know, what you don’t know.

9. You have to trust the process

10. When you get out of your own way, amazing things happen

I picked up the bottle the wine to enjoy while I cuddle with my husband and baby girl tonight… Yes, my birthday evening is going to be a wild one.

With that glass of wine, I’d like to virtually raise my glass to all the kick-ass + supportive people in my life (you know exactly who you are). You are the ones who have inspired me, and believed in me and the ones who have shown me that life is what you make it! You guys are amazing and I am so beyond lucky to have people like you in my tribe!