On my calendar, this week I have a note to write a blog post titled “What we did to get Reese to sleep in her own bed” .
But, if you’ve been following along you know that sweet, spunky Reese, isn’t the best sleeper.
She prefers to sleep with us and when she does sleep in her own room, often wakes up in the middle of the night, and needs one of us to sleep with her in order to fall back asleep.
You guessed it… that “one of us” is me!
Sure, I should her back to bed. Settle her and then return to my own - but honestly, I’m tired.... and her Endy Mattress is way too comfortable. I always just fall asleep.
When I planned to write this blog post I was beyond confident that by the time Reese started Junior Kindergarten she would have a solid sleep routine. She would be sleeping by herself, in her room, all night long.
Like I said, that didn’t happen!
Most nights, in the around 2am I hear little foot steps down the hall, and then she’s standing by my bed whispering “will you cuddle me?”
My answer, every single time is YES!
There are so many benefits to being a step-parent before having an “ours baby”. One of them being that I know just how fast time goes. Whatever phase your kids are in right now, will not last forever.
Another benefit of being a stepmom with older kids, is the I get to experience all stages of parenting at once. Right now, we are parenting kids from 4 all the way to 16. It’s a bit of a ride!
As kids get older, they are less likely to ask for cuddles. They don't come in for the kisses and the hugs, in fact, they sometimes turn them down.
It devastates my poor husband!
So, with that experience, here’s what I know for sure. Reese won’t always want to cuddle and sleep with me every night. One day, all of a sudden, she will start sleeping on her own. One day, I’ll miss this!
So right now, if I can provide her with that extra comfort in the middle of the night, and soak up those extra squeezes. I’m going to do It.
We’re taking our time, encouraging her to be a big girl, reinforcing how proud we are when she does sleep in her own bed, while not putting too much pressure on her.
We know that this too shall pass! So, while we’re in this phase, I’m going to enjoy every sleep I get on that Endy Mattress … , because guys, it’s pretty dang comfortable!
About that Endy Mattress. If you’ve been following me on Instagram, you know we’ve been trying it out for the past 100 days or so. As promised, today I’m going to share our review.
I have to say, I am thrilled with this mattress. Honestly, at first I was a little skeptical, given that it arrives in a box, but I sleep wonderfully on it! My stepdaughter also has one, and she’s equally in love!
It’s not too soft, but not too firm, came neatly packaged right to our door and was so easy to assemble. You literally just take it out of the box and watch it take shape.
The other amazing thing about this mattress it that it doesn’t transfer movement… sleeping with Reese is like sleeping with a chimpanzee! She moves around the bed all night long… but after I am asleep I don’t notice a thing! I actually have better sleeps with her, than I do Darren, who’s snoring is out of control lately (this is going to be a little test to see if he actually reads my blog)
Anyways, that’s where we’re at with Reese’s sleep. We’ve thrown in the towel and are letting her do it on her own terms!
And hey, if you’re in the market for a new mattress, head to www.endy.com and use my code JAMIE50 for $50 off, and be sure to let me know what you think!
PS. Because I know I’ll get messages asking what would happen if I just put her back into her bed and sternly told her she needs to go back to sleep, I’ll answer right now. .
We’ve tried that. Honestly the sweet little girl turns into what can only be described as an excoriate child. A few months ago, after her chasing me down the hall for an hour, and waking up the entire house, we decided it was too traumatizing for all of us to go the tough love route.
I’m not a “cry it out” mom and never will be. We all have our different parenting styles and have to do what feels right for us.