Anyone who has been following me over the past month or so knows that things have been a little hectic around here lately.
We are knee deep in a 6, I mean 8 week, kitchen reno, and have basically been living out of suitcases for the past month.
Don't get me wrong, I'm not complaining. I'm just emphasizing that organization has not been one of my strong points this summer.
In fact, my husband now refers to me as "the most unorganized organized person" that he knows.
Anywho, a few nights ago, we were sitting at my in-laws house, relaxing after a crazy day when we realized that our two-year-old did what two-year-olds do.... She pooped.
Rock paper scissors...
Paper covers rock
Sweet! My husband was on diaper duty!
I sat back, all ready to pour a glass of vino and a lightbulb went off in my head!
I forgot the diapers at home. Yep! it was 8:50pm on Saturday night and I had a shitty baby sans diapers!
I wanted to snap. I was so disappointed in myself and honestly my husband wasn't that thrilled with me either. All we had were three swim diapers and if you're familiar with them, they don't hold jack(shit). (See what I did there?)
I jumped in the truck (actually I ran around the house frantically looking for my keys... which were no where to be found) and then got into my truck.... determined to make it to the store before closing!
I was stressed. My heart was beating like crazy. I even had some upper lip sweat.
Then I thought back to a little trick that one of the girls in last round of The KICK-ASS Stepmom Project taught me.
The 5-5-5 rule.
I asked myself:
Will this matter in 5 minutes?
Will this matter in 5 days?
Will this matter in 5 years?
So I took a deep breath, wiped my upper lip sweat, and made a point to answer these questions.
Will the matter in 5 minutes? Well... In 5 minutes we may have a complete ass-plosion... so maybe!
But 5 days? Nah
5 years? Nope
In fact, in 5 years we are going to be laughing about that time that I forgot the pull-ups and Reese's diaper exploded all over Grandmas couch (because yes that did happen... I didn't make it back in time)
I guess my point (other than you should always remember the diapers) is that before you get all worked up about things like a shitty diaper, stop and ask yourself
"Does this really matter?"
"Is it worth all the time and negative energy?"
"Is it THAT big of a deal?"
The 5-5-5 rule has been a huge game changer for me.
(Full Disclosure: I have been known to overreact from time to time)
.... Because the truth is, life is full of shitty diapers. Absolutely full of them, and there is no changing that! It's how you deal with the shit that really matters
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