As I've told you all, my stepchildren are with us every other week, which means every other weekend we have all four kids. We've always done our best to designate those weekends as "kid weekends" - whenever possible, we try to schedule our social events on the weekends they are with their Mom. 

However, a few weekends ago my husband and I spent Friday and Saturday night watching Dateline and 20/20...  alone. 

It wasn't the first time either. This had become an every other weekend tradition. 

Our toddler was in bed and the other three were with their friends for the night. 

With a bag of Miss. Vickies salt & vinegar chips on our lap, we snuggled up on the couch together and zoned out into the tube. Don't get me wrong, it was great. 

But to be honest, I spend most of the week at home - so when the weekend comes, I do like to hit the town at least once. That is if we aren't engulfed in kid activities... either way, I like to do SOMETHING! 

Even though we have blocked off our "kid weekends", I can't remember the last time we ALL spent a weekend night together. Family movie nights are few and far between. Family dinners on Friday and Saturdays consist of take-out and driving kids their friends houses, or hitting up the store for slumber party snacks. 

So as we sat there, feet up on the coffee table, listening to the latest Crime Mystery, I looked at my husband and laughed... I said, "We block out our weekends to hang out with the kiddos, but it looks like it's no longer cool to snuggle up and watch a movie with us on Friday nights"

As sad as that makes me, it makes him even sadder. 

His babies are growing up!  

My friend Jen, who writes over at Lemons Into Vodka once wrote a post where she talked about the saying "this too shall pass"

People often refer to that saying when talking about bad and stressful times. 

But, as she reminded me, it also applies to the good times too. 

Everything, the good, the bad and the ugly... passes. No matter what, time does it's thing!

So often, as stepmoms we focus on the extra stressors that come with blended family life. Everyday I talk to women who are consumed by the negative...

Like I said above, I remind them that this too shall pass. 

There will be a time when the kids are all grown-up. When co-parenting, child support, vacation schedules and all the tedious conversations that come with blended family life will no longer be part of your day-to-day.

But that also means your house won't be full of laughter, and pitter patter of little feet. The dinner table will be empty, the mini stick tournaments, wrestling matches and movie nights will become just a memory. 

The kids will be all grown up too. 

As much as my husband and I have started to enjoy the new freedom on weekends, a part of us longs for the time, not too long ago, when weekends = family nights.

I guess the point of this is to remember that amongst all the stressful times, there are some pretty damn good ones. Try not to all caught up over the negative... Don't wish it all away. 

Because as quickly as those tough times will become something of the past, the good ones will become just a memory too! And even though you'll be happy to say farewell to those co-parenting struggles, you may just find yourself longing for all the joy that came along with it.

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