10 real life lessons that I’ve learned from being a stepmom, because you know what they say. When you know better, you do better!
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"I wish I would have known the “Disney Stereotype” of the Evil StepMother. Hollywood has totally made sure to frame us as wicked and manipulative, but I as well as others are more than happy to demolish that stereotype!
I wish I would have realized that respect isn’t given and even if it is earned, some will still refuse to be respectful.
Like I said in a previous post, I'm not just a stepmom, and neither are you.
The best part is, keeping that at the forefront of your mind by doing things FOR YOU and continuing to evolve ... in turn, fills your cup and makes YOU a better person
You may be saying, "yes that's everyone's fear" but I think this fear of mine is up a few notches from the general public. It's all-consuming and pretty irrational.
So we are back from our vacation up at the cottage, and are doing our VERY best to get back into the swing of things (while still trying to soak up the last that our Canadian Summer has to offer)
While we were up on vacay, I received some emails from followers referring to my "perfect" family, and asking for tips on how to have the "perfect stepfamily life"
As much as I LOVE hearing from the fabulous women who read my blog, when I read these emails all I could say was "NO! NO! NO!"
The truth is, if you're looking for advice on how to achieve a perfectly harmonious stepfamily life, you'll need to ask someone else, because you won't find it here!
Well, we are officially in our summer groove over here!
We just wrapped up our first week with the kids and it was full everything that summer should be!
Ice cream runs, batting cages, beach days, sleep-ins, and some serious giggles!
(My stepchildren come every other week, so because of the schedule, our official summer kick-off was a bit delayed)
For some reason, I'm more excited about summer than I have been for the longest time. I feel like a kid again! I think it has something to do my husband and I making an intentional mindset shift.
Lately, there has been all sorts of bad news around us. People getting sick, tragic accidents, shootings, riots, you name it.
Over the past couple of years, you have told me over and over again that you wish you had more stepmoms in your network. You wish that your friends + family understood what it is like to be deep in the trenches of step-parenting.
I don't blame you one but. Once upon a time, I felt the same way.
Even though the number of stepmoms is ever increasing, it still seems to be a TABOO topic.
Newsfeeds and blogging websites are always posting articles about the nitty gritty of being a Mom... but no one seems to be able to talk about the challenges that stepmoms faces... well without being labeled as "evil" that is.
On March Break this year, my newsfeed was full of status updates from Moms saying they cannot wait for their kids to go back to school. They were at their wits end with March Break Mayhem and were dying to get back to their routine, sans kids!
We had the kids all March Break too, and to be honest, I felt the same way. But I didn't dare post that on my Facebook Newsfeed.
Can you imagine what the response would be if I did?
I can just see the reactions now:
"OMG I can't believe she just say that!"
"How could she talk that way about her stepchildren?"
"She knew he had kids when she married him, what did she expect?"
We just wrapped up the first session of "The KICK-ASS STEPMOM Project" and all I can say is WOW! The response to the content and connections developed between the Stepmoms in this group was absolutely phenomenal! I cannot tell you how excited I am to launch the second round this fall!
On that note...
About a week ago, I asked my "virtual" stepmom friend Jen, to provide some advice to the stepmoms in the group, on what can be a very contentious topic ... dealing with your husband's ex wife!
Jen is a stepmom herself, and since stumbling upon her blog "The Velvet Hive" over a year ago, I have been really inspired by her attitude, perspective, and admirable relationship with her stepdaughter's mother!
It was no surprise that her response to this request blew me again. In fact, it was too good to just keep for the ladies in The KICK-ASS Stepmom Project, so I asked Jen if I could share it with all of you! She graciously said yes... so you're welcome!
Here is what she said... Copied and Pasted straight from our Online Group!