I write this blog because I want to be real, and talk about the things that most people won't.
I've made a commitment to myself, and to you, to be be real, authentic and straight up. I"m not one to pretend like I have it together all of the time. In fact, I don't care who you are, I don't think everyone can be on their A game 24/7. I think we're all susceptible to funks here and there.
Yes funk. F-U-N-K. That's what I am writing about today.
I'm writing to tell you for the last several months I've been in a FUNK. An unmotivated, spinning my tires, pity party for one FUNK.
It wasn't until last week when I stopped in my tracks and noticed I was belly laughing for the first time in forever, that I realized just had bad I had been feeling. As I said in yesterday's Instagram post, I think I'm in the clear. I'm feeling good. Like "mama's got her groove back, dancing in the bathroom when I get ready for the day, handling life like a boss good"
And if feels freaking awesome!!
Here's the thing about FUNKS. We all have them. It happens. If your mom, a stepmom, or a bachelorette living the single life I want you to know this... having a funk is OKAY... just don't pack up and stay there for too long. Because the longer you wallow, the harder it is to come out the other side.
The key is to recognize the signs of the FUNK, so that you can do what you need to do get your groove thang back!
I don't really know how to describe this FUNK to you. It wasn't like I was lying in bed all day, unable to function. I was functioning. You saw me on here, blogging away. I created The KICK-ASS Stepmom Project 2.0. I was still doing the parenting thing, still managing the house thing (in a half-assed way mind you)... but I was just going through the motions. I wasn't having any FUN. There was no pep in my step! I wasn't looking forward to things like I used to.
One day, I overheard my husband talking to one of his buddies on the telephone and THEY were belly laughing about the silliest things. Cracking up, catching up, reminiscing about the "good old days". I should have been smiling just listening to him giggle like a school girl, but I was overcome by a flood of jealousy. I wanted to laugh like that.
Why wasn't I laughing like that?
It was right then I realized that the F-U-N-K had to end.
January is time for New Years resolutions. I'm sure your newsfeed has been flooded with everyone and their Mom blogging about their goals for 2017. I put a few out there myself... but to sum it up my overall goal was to say peace out to that funk, laugh and just be a little better! As we January comes to a close, I'm feeling pretty good about my progress so far.
I'm officially FUNK free.
Because a few of you have asked ... today I'm sharing what I did to FUNK OFF the FUNK!
1. I re-evaluated my priorities ... people, things, responsibilities, everything...
and decluttered my life. You can check out exactly what I did in my post Hey There 2017! It's Time To Declutter!
2. I made a plan
Like I said, last week I realized just how bad the FUNK had gotten, so I made the conscious decision get it together! With that, comes a plan!
You can read the details of it in last week's post I'm Going To Freaking Rock Motherhood This Week - Here's My 10 Step Plan...
It included scheduling in a whole lot of "me time", planning my week in advance, a date night and taking down my Christmas tree!
.. it was pretty successful! (except the Christmas tree thing.... full disclosure. It's still up!)
3. I dug deep and figured out exactly what it was that was getting me all FUNKED up!
While we're being honest, I've sat here thinking about what to write in this section for about 20 minutes now. Because I DO know what FUNKED me all up. I toyed with spilling my guts here, but honestly I don't know if I am quite there yet. And well it really is just a cluster-funk of a bunch of things that that have compounded since August, most of which is outside of my control, with a side of being disorganized and out of routine since our Kitchen Reno this fall.
The truth is, I didn't know exactly what had FUNKED me up, until I sat down and really thought about it. Let me tell you, acknowledging and vocalizing where the issue is a game changer!
If you're FUNKED talk to your husband, phone a friend or get a journal. It helps.
4. I asked for help!
As moms and stepmoms, sometimes we have this idea that we have to do it all and be it all... with a smile on our face. That's not true!
In fact, I think it's impossible to be on top of everything all.of.the.time! If not impossible, pretty freaking exhausting.
And well, smiling ALL the time... hurts my face.
I knew that part of this funk was a result of being overwhelmed with the sheer un-organization in our home. It wasn't terrible and it's not terrible. But I thrive when things are in order and in their place, and with four kids that just isn't always possible to maintain! I also knew that trying to achieve this organization myself was going to really FUNK me out... because there just isn't enough hours in the day.... so I asked for help with a few tasks and let go of control!
As a friend, hire a cleaning lady, ask your family, delegate to the kids... there are lots of people willing to help out. You just have to ask!
... with those four steps I'm feeling good.
Like I said above, "Mama's got her groove back" and giggling like a school girl once again!
... In celebration of being FUNK free, and having more pep in my step, I've decided to hold a FREE "Wine Wednesday" Webinar on February 8 for the Stepmoms in this amazing community
At 8pm EST, I'm going to be pouring myself a glass of wine and talking about my 10 Tips for being a KICK-ASS Stepmom. If you love wine, like connecting with likeminded women, and are seeking some improvement in your stepfamily world.... JOIN ME! These Wine Wednesdays are ALWAYS a good time!
To get your name on the list sign up HERE... and mark your calendars! The details for the webinar will be in your inbox SOON!