I don’t know about you but every once and a while I get in a place where I’m unmotivated, tired, irritable,sometimes anxiety ridden, and just feeling blah!
It happens to me every now and again, and guys, when I find myself in this place, I am not the most enjoyable person to be around. Just ask my husband!
Today I’m going to share 6 tips for busting out of that rut and get back to regular programming....
Because it’s no fun for you to live your life feeling that way, and if you're anything like me, it's not fun for the people in your life either!
1. IDENTIFY THE PROBLEM
Take a moment and ask yourself, “what am I REALLY so upset about? What is making me feel this way?”
When we're feeling off, we often say “I don’t what what it is, I don’t know why I’m feeling so blah” but when you take the time to REALLY THINK about it, you CAN identify sparked the feeling
What is causing me to feel the way that I’m feeling right now?
When did it start?
Am I overwhelmed?
Have I been taking time for myself?
How’s my relationship with my husband?
Am I upset about something?
Am I allowing someone else’s behaviour to have too much control over me?. What sparked this crappy feeling?!
This helps you to identify what this rut is REALLY about, so you can focus on the actual issue and prevent it from tricking into other areas of your life
2. FIGURE OUT HOW TO SQUASH THE ISSUE
So you've identified the trigger, now figure out how you're going to address it.
If it's a shitty irrational feeling based on an insecurity, pep talk yourself out of it. Ask yourself, "what I tell my best friend if she were in my position" ... give yourself the same advice, compassion and love as you would give her.
If you're feeling overwhelmed with too many to dos, do a "brain dump" and put all your thoughts and "to do's" on a piece of paper - then prioritize, organized and decide what you can just let go. Label your "to dos" as today, tomorrow, next week, next year, 5 years from now and never ever going to happen! Don't be afraid to say no!
If it's your relationship with your husband husband, or self care ... carve out some quality time to get things back on track.
You get the drift! You just have to tackle the issue head on!
3. FOCUS ON WHAT YOU HAVE TO BE GRATEFUL FOR
Look I know this sounds a bit cheesey but it works. Take a second and think about all the things that are going well in your life and all the things you have to be grateful for! Even in the worst of times, there's always something!
We tend to focus on everything that’s going wrong, especially when we're in a rut. But when we think about the negative it sprials into more negative thinking and we find ourself in a deep hole that's harder and harder to get out if. So instead, constantly remind yourself to focus on the positive and then let it snowball from there.
4. CHECK YOURSELF
If you ask me there is nothing more effective than a good old “check yourself” session.
Sit down and ask yourself:
Am I being the type of mom I want to be?
Am I being the type of stepmom I want to be?
Am I being the type of wife, the type of friend, the type of person I want to be
If I were to die tomorrow would I feel good about the type of life I am living?
Answering these questions is a sure way to inspire you to get back on track!!
5. DO SOME PERSONAL DEVELOPMENT
I used to think that personal development was corny.
Growing up every morning my mom would get up before all the kids, drink coffee and read personal development books... and I thought it was the weirdest thing ever.
Then I started to do it myself, and now I totally get it!
On the days when I take time to read books like “Subtle Art of Not Giving a F&ck”, The Compound Effect, or my latest fav Girl Wash Your Face, I feel more focused, I’m more productive and more positive about how things are going in life.
Straight up it lights a fire underneath my ass to be the person I want to be.
6. AUDIT THE PEOPLE YOU'RE SURROUNDING YOURSELF WITH - BOTH IN PERSON AND ONLINE
Surround yourself with people who bring out who inspire you - online or in person.
If you’re in a rut don’t surround yourself with people who make you feel worse.
If you have a family member who always brings you down, don’t spend time with them until you’re in a better place.
If there is a social media account that you follow that makes you feel like you’re not measuring up? Don’t follow it when you’re in the slump.
In fact, unless you’re checking in with someone who really inspires crap you out of you…try to minimize your scroll until you’re in a better place. When you’re in a rut people’s highlight reels can really add fuel to the fire.
7. MOVE YOUR FREAKIN' BODY
Even if it’s just going for a regular walk, moving your body helps pump those endorphins, boost self-confidence, clear your head and just get focused!!
Exercise makes it's way onto every one of these lists... not because it's cliche, but because it's the best and cheapest therapy there is!
Remember this. It’s okay to get in a bad place.
It’s okay to be in a rut from time to time. We’ve all been there… in fact, I've was there a few weeks ago.
It’s normal to want to have a little pitty party for yourself when things aren’t gong so well… and straight up, I'm okay with a little pity party. I can throw a mean one for myself.
But just don’t pack up and stay there. Feel all the feels, and then step back, clear your head and get back to regular programming as quickly as possible.
Remember, everyone has in life is dealing with some kind of crap… everyone has a story. It’s how we deal with these struggle that defines the type of person that we are and the quality of life that we live…