A couple of weeks ago, someone referred to me as being “organized” and completely on top of everything in our household. She said, “you have everything under control all the time, how do you do it?” I laughed! What a crock! A great complement but a complete crock. Yes there are days when everything is smooth sailing and I feel like I have this parenting thing completely under control. But those days are few and far between. Most days (like most moms) I feel like I am flying by the seat of my pants, texting friends and family wondering what the hell I do next.
In public, it’s really easy to look like you have things under wraps. Months ago, my husband brought up one of my girlfriends, commenting on how impressive it is that she handles everything that she does. He said, she shows up at the arena every week, with two kids and a baby in her arms, put together, smile on her face… like it’s no big deal! Now this woman is amazing… and juggles more than your average mom! In fact, I often look to her for advice. However, when Darren brought this up I chucked to myself because just weeks before she told me about what life looks like as she loads the hockey equipment and all the baby gear into her van. And just like us, and every other family out there, it’s not all hearts and sparkles.
Good days or bad days, we all do what we have to do to just get by. Some days are easier than others, but each and every mom has little strategies, or confessions, or things they do behind the scenes that they really don’t want the world to see. I love reading the lists of confessions I find on various blogs online. They help remind me that no mom is perfect!!
Here is a list of a few of my confessions:
1. I hide treats. At any given time you will find a bag of chocolate covered almonds or mint smoothies from Rheo Thompson in my bedside drawer, glove compartment or both. If you ask me if I have any chocolate, I will lie. Sometimes, sharing can be difficult for me, especially when it comes to food. And nothing throws me off like coming home to find out the chocolate I’ve been dreaming of all day was someone’s after school snack!
2. I throw stuff out… Toys, dinky cars and other things that I find all over the house. 1. Sometimes I am too lazy to put things away 2. Sometimes I am sick and tired of picking up the same thing day after day. Either way, the crap left lying around finds itself in a big orange garbage bag on a regular basis.
3. Sometimes when I have a free night, free day or even a free hour, I get into my car and crank the music and roll out of my driveway screaming “I’m free” in my head! Don’t get me wrong, I love my days with my baby. I love the cuddles and our outings and everything about the time we have! But there is something totally freeing about wheeling out of the driveway without a baby in the car seat.
4. I use bribery positive reinforcement, several times a week. What’s most important to me is that shit gets done… no matter how many toonies it costs me.
5. I put my baby in front of the TV … Even though I’ve read about and been told “no screen time until 2 years old” I still do it! Not all day, not all morning, but here and there when I need a few minutes TeleToon is my best friend!
6. I never match socks. I rarely even try. There is a basket of socks in my laundry room that piles up week after week. The whole bribery/positive reinforcement thing comes into play when we run out of clean pairs !! It’s what I like to call… A pay chore !
7. I sleep in. Since having Reese, I sleep in until about 9:30am at least three days a week. We sleep and cuddle and forget about the world!
8. Sometimes I don’t brush my teeth until after lunch. I honestly just forget.
9. I say f*ck it. Every once and a while, when things get especially hairy, when my house is flipped upside down, and my to do list is growing not shrinking, I call a sitter, hit the mall and have a “Jamie Day”
10. I dream of pre-kid days. I love being a mom, step-mom and wife more than anything in the world… but every so often, I find myself daydreaming of the time when I was able to sit down and read a book.
What are your confessions? What do you do to get by?
Shoot me a message, I’d love to hear all about them.