I normally keep things pretty positive around here. But today, I just need to get some things off my chest. It’s been weighing on me for a while now, and well… something needs to be said.
Today I am writing this post because the internet has been pissing me right off. Yes, that’s right the internet. Specifically, the people on the internet.
More specifically, the topic and issues that are getting so much attention from mothers.
Day after day I find myself scrolling through my newsfeed asking myself, “why do they even care?”
Let me explain.
1. The whole tights are not pants debate
Now, don’t get me wrong, I think that there needs to be a conversation about the whole issue from United Airlines. I do.
[If you don’t know what I'm talking about, click HERE to read the story about how some girls who were flying on a pass with United Airlines were told that they couldn’t board the plane because they were in tights, which is against the dresscode]
But before this whole United Airlines dresscode incident (that I believe is ridiculous by the way) A LOT of people have spent A LOT of time and energy deciding whether or not it’s appropriate to wear tights as pants OR work-out gear as everyday wear.
My question is, why does anyone care what someone else wears?
If you think tights are pants, wear them as pants.
I personally rock my work-out gear most days of the week, and will continue to do so because well… I can do what I want… and I think they look great!
But if you are someone who doesn’t think it’s appropriate to wear tights as pants.... just wear jeans, or slacks or whatever you people feel is appropriate attire.
What another person chooses to put on their legs, is no business of mine… or yours!
2. The Working-Mom / Stay-At-Home-Mom Online War
A few years ago this was a BIG topic amongst the blogging community.
An open letter from the working-mom to the stay-at-home-mom
the response from the stay-at-home-mom to the working-mom
What the working-mom wants the stay-at-home-mom to know
What the stay-at-home-mom wants the working mom to know
The whole thing made my head spin...
Why does the working mom care what the stay-at-home-mom is doing? (and vice versa)
The fact that this topic still is so widely talked about blows my mind
There is no right or wrong way
Do what’s best for you and your family.
And respect that what works for you, may not work for someone else.
There are pros and cons to each situation….
Enough is enough
3. Mom Shaming / Mom Judging
Anyone who has embarked in any form of motherhood knows that it's no easy gig. The struggle is real.
I’m willing to bet that every single woman reading this post has felt some form of mom-shaming at one point in time. I’m also willing to bet that it didn’t feel good.
So why do we continue to do it to each other?
Why are we so fixated on how other people are parenting their children?
We don't know what they are dealing with? We don't know what happens behind the scenes. We just don't know!
Just do you. Follow your own motherly instincts and do what you believe is right for your own family.
If you by chance, feel like someone is doing something terribly wrong, get it off your chest by venting to your husband in the kitchen before dinner and then go get a hobby and move on with your life because it’s none of your freaking business.
Keep it off your Facebook newsfeed.
4. The constant articles slamming women with MLM / Direct Sales businesses
I’m going to keep this short and sweet because we all know what I’m talking about here.
It’s the articles talking about how women have started to avoid or de-friend those who are in direct sales because they don't want to be pitched to every time they connect.
I get it. I do.
As someone who has both dabbled into direct sales businesses and avoided someone who is selling something like the freaking plague…. I see both sides of the coin.
Here’s the deal, you don’t need to understand why someone is doing something. All you have to do is respect that it's the choice they have made... and be happy that they have found something they are passionate about.
Maybe their sales tactics need work, but they are learning and have decided to step outside of their comfort zone, so at least treat them with some respect.
And if their constant Facebook posts about their life changing products annoy you, there is this little arrow at the top of their Facebook posts where you can click UNFOLLOW. You don’t need to unfriend them to not see their posts all day long.
They won’t know.
If you're not as bothered about the social media posts as you are the in person conversations, grow some lady balls and tell them
“Hey, I love that you’ve found something you’re so passionate about but I am really not interested right now. If I change my mind I WILL LET YOU KNOW….”
Instead of passively aggressively sharing some blog post on your newsfeed in hopes that they will get the message.
SIDEBAR: There are women in direct sales freaking killing it. Like making thousands upon thousands upon thousands of dollars. So ask yourself, are you knocking it because you're truly bothered or because you’re jealous of the ginormous pay check they are getting from hanging out in their TIGHTS on Facebook all day.
Here’s the point of this rant…
Every single day I hear mothers talk about how busy they are. How there isn’t enough time in the day to get everything done.
It’s tough it really is. The “to do list” is never ending…
But here’s a thought… if we stopped spending so much time worrying about whether other women are wearing pants, choosing the right career path or feeling their kid organic apple sauce packaged in the proper type of plastic or not… we may just have more time to get all our jobs done…
and I don't know … enjoy more time with the people and things who matter most in life.
How about we model what we teach our children… and mind our own business!
(whew.... that felt really good)