I'll Love You Even When I Hate You

I'll Love You Even When I Hate You

When I got married, I was excited about marrying the man of my dreams. Lucky enough, I still am!

We are going to do life together. We are going to make our dreams come true together.

We will love each other, support each other and live our own version of happily ever after.

Cute right?

That’s what everyone expects when they get married.

Love. The Fairytale. All that…

The Stupid Things People Say to Stepmoms (or me at least)

The Stupid Things People Say to Stepmoms (or me at least)

I've been in a "stepmom" role for about four years now. Does it make me a veteran? Hell no! But I think I have a pretty good grasp on things (most days anyway)

As time goes on, less and less surprises me. Empathy and the ability to put myself in someone else's shoes have helped me understand Stepfamily Dynamics, and why every once and a while life turns into a complete and utter sh*t show. 

That being said, there are some things that still do surprise me. Sometimes they surprise me so much that I feel like I've been punched in the stomach and other times they surprise me so much that I am left asking myself "Did that really just happen?"

STEPMOM FEATURE: Gina Watson from "How to Stepmom"

STEPMOM FEATURE: Gina Watson from "How to Stepmom"

I've made it no secret that when I first found myself deep in the trenches of step-parenting, I was disappointed with the lack of positive stepmom bloggers out there.

For the most part, I found myself stumbling upon stepmoms who were doing a great job at fulfilling that bogus stereotype of the "evil stepmom" that many of us are doing our very best to quash! 

The good news is that as my community of positive, likeminded stepmoms continues to grow, I've had the pleasure of becoming virtual friends with some pretty KICK-ASS Stepmoms.

Ones who actually LIKE their stepkids.
Ones who actually LIKE being a stepmom.
Ones who realize that this stepfamily life isn't so bad if you're prepared to do a bit of work! 

I've decided to not keep these Stepmoms all to myself any longer. Starting NOW I am going to be featuring one KICK-ASS Stepmom on my blog the first week of every month! 

This week, I'm thrilled to introduce you to Gina Watson of How to Stepmom. I had the pleasure of getting to know Gina during the first round of The KICK-ASS Stepmom Project. 

Gina's story is VERY unique!! I often think that moving from the city to our Hamlet was a big transition for me, but this girl up and moved her whole life from the Netherlands to be with her now husband and his two stepsons! Can you say culture shock?!

You can read more about Gina over on her blog How to Stepmom (Which by the way, her stepsons named.) 

I love her story & I love her vibe... and I know that you will too! In fact, sometimes when I am reading Gina's posts, I feel like I am reading my own (minus the whole moving from the Netherlands thing)
 

GUEST POST: Follow Your Parental Compass

GUEST POST: Follow Your Parental Compass

I recently had a very dear friend message me, because she needed a sounding board due to a bump in the life of a step-mom.  We haven’t had a chance yet to really talk, but I assured her this gig is hard and complicated. It ebbs and flows. It’s never going to be summarized in one Brady Bunch episode where everything is resolved in 30 minutes (despite what great parents Mike & Carol were).

Our brief exchange made me think about how tough this role really can be – and how I want to make sure that anyone who thinks my step-mom/co-parenting experience is nothing but a giant kumbaya moment is sorely mistaken. Though we are very fortunate to have an exceptionally good relationship as co-parents, it is not perfect.

The thing is, no matter how uncomfortable it makes me to write about the hard moments as a step-parent, I think it’s incredibly important. My Instagram feed may be a highlight reel, but my role as a parent and step-parent is full of mistakes and tears and happy moments and sad moments and anger and frustration and everything in between. And I owe it to myself – and other step-parents – to be real and honest and share the ugly moments as well as the beautiful ones.

When life gives you a sh*tty diaper ...

When life gives you a sh*tty diaper ...

Anywho, a few nights ago, we were sitting at my in-laws house, relaxing after a crazy day when we realized that our two-year-old did what two-year-olds do.... She pooped.

Rock paper scissors... 
Paper covers rock

Sweet! My husband was on diaper duty!

I sat back, all ready to pour a glass of vino and a lightbulb went off in my head!

I forgot the diapers at home. Yep! it was 8:50pm on Saturday night and I had a shitty baby sans diapers! 

I wanted to snap. I was so disappointed in myself and honestly my husband wasn't that thrilled with me either. All we had were three swim diapers and if you're familiar with them, they don't hold jack(shit).

Why These 5 Stepmoms Think You Should Join The KICK-ASS Stepmom Project

Why These 5 Stepmoms Think You Should Join The KICK-ASS Stepmom Project

This is a one-of-a-kind, no bull-shit, solution focused, group program for Stepmoms who want to THRIVE (not just survive) this crazy beautiful blended family life! 

I'm not a Psychologist or a Social Worker. I'm a Stepmom who once upon a time found herself crying on the bathroom floor with a glass of wine wondering what the heck I was thinking when I decided to marry a single dad with three kids! 

I was in need of some major support. But I couldn't find it. So I decided to create it!

All Stepmoms Are Not Created Equal

All Stepmoms Are Not Created Equal

As a blogger, one of my favourite things to do is sip on my morning coffee and scroll through the latest blog posts from my favourite Blogging Websites.

Facebook, being the creepily perceptive beast that it is, has tuned into this favourite pastime of mine, and tailored my newsfeed accordingly.


However, as I scroll through my newsfeed, sipping on my java, I notice a very clear pattern in the parenting blogging world. 

As I am sure you’ve noticed, social media, bloggers and parenting experts have done a phenomenal (and I use that term loosely) job at categorizing the different types of parents.

There is no such thing as a PERFECT Family

There is no such thing as a PERFECT Family

So we are back from our vacation up at the cottage, and are doing our VERY best to get back into the swing of things (while still trying to soak up the last that our Canadian Summer has to offer) 

While we were up on vacay, I received some emails from followers referring to my "perfect" family, and asking for tips on how to have the "perfect stepfamily life" 

As much as I LOVE hearing from the fabulous women who read my blog, when I read these emails all I could say was "NO! NO! NO!"

 The truth is, if you're looking for advice on how to achieve a perfectly harmonious stepfamily life, you'll need to ask someone else, because you won't find it here! 

Summer Loving + Renos + The KICK-ASS STEPMOM Project

Summer Loving + Renos + The KICK-ASS STEPMOM Project

Just when I thought things couldn't get any busier in our CRAZY, BEAUTIFUL Blended Family Life, they did! 

Amongst all the usual shanigans (aka memory making) of summer, we've decided to a few more things our plate. Which is why things have been pretty quiet over here!

Today I thought I'd take a break from the madness and pop on and give you guys a bit of an update on everything that's been going... and tell you about some exciting things that are coming up for YOU this fall!!

What Having A Mouse In My Bed Reminded Me About Real Life

What Having A Mouse In My Bed Reminded Me About Real Life

A couple weeks ago, my husband and I were lucky enough to get away to one of our favourite places... The French River. 

We are members of a houseboat up there. 

Now before you say get this picture of a luxorious houseboat in your head, you need to know this thing is a bit of monstrosity. It's about the next best thing to sleeping on the ground!

Either way, we love it. It's by far our favourite place in the world. But like I said, it's  roughing it. You're parked in nature, a pretty decent boat ride away from anything civilized. 

With all the joys of going off the grid, come certain risks. Risks like rodents and reptiles. Snakes and mice to be exact.