As stepmoms, because our family dynamic is far more complicated than a "first family", we have this nasty little habit over over-analyzing situations. We often assume that any complications are due to the fact that the we are in a blended family. And well, sometimes they are, sometimes they aren't. But either way, it's not worth driving yourself crazy over.Read More
I love this age. My daughter turns three in just under a month and I have to say this is my favourite age yet. Even though it is heart breaking that my baby girl, is no longer a baby girl, watching her to grow into the spunky, kind-hearted, funny girl that she is, makes my heart do things I didn't know were possible. It's also makes me think... a lot. Specifically about who I am as a parent and what I want to teach this young impressionable little girl. It's no longer about skin-to-skin and feeding schedules. It's about supporting her in becoming a caring, kind-hearted, successful and ambitious human being.Read More
Well hello, Thursday. All I can say is thank-goodness tomorrow is Good Friday and this week is wrapping itself up.
Well, because it's been one of those weeks. Don't worry, nothing monumental or disastrous has happened. There hasn't been a crisis of any sorts. It's just that literally nothing has gone right.
In fact, as I type this post I'm chuckling to myself at how things have gone down this week. It's been one crazy that random event after another....
Since this is NOT my area of expertise, I had my friend Kelly McDonnell-Arnold, a relationship and sex therapist, and certified sexologist from Bliss Counselling come over so I could pick her brain!
We chatted about what to do if you're just TOO tired, how sex and working out seem to be that two things that fall of your to-do list when thinks get busy, why communication is the KEY (surprise surprise) and the difference between men and women's sex mojo!
Over the past few months I've had the absolute pleasure of connecting with Kate Chapman of This Life In Progress. She hosts an online community for divorced parents and blended families. I'm willing to bet her blog posts have graced your newsfeed over the past few months, as her pieces have been widely featured on The Huffington Post, Red Tricycle and other popular blogging websites. I interviewed Kate about a month ago, and have been waiting for the perfect time to share this with you. Kate's real and honest, yet positive perspective on blended family life is beyond refreshing, and is exactly that this community needs!Read More
Most nights I lay awake worrying... and scrolling through my phone. In the morning, I was so tired my face hurt. I couldn't get organized and despite a never ending to-do list, I couldn't seem to scratch things off.Instead, I caught myself meaninglessly scrolling through my social media feeds, responding to emails that could wait... and like I said, being unproductive!Read More
I see life as being a continuous stream of lessons. If we're open to it, everyday we have the opportunity to learn new things. To learn from our mistakes and to learn from others' mistakes as well. You know what they say, "When you know better, you do better"Read More
I normally keep things pretty positive around here. But today, I just need to get some things off my chest. It’s been weighing on me for a while now, and well… something needs to be said.
Today I am writing this post because the internet has been pissing me right off. Yes, that’s right the internet. Specifically, the people on the internet.
More specifically, the topic and issues that are getting so much attention from mothers.
Day after day I find myself scrolling through my newsfeed asking myself, “why do they even care?”
Let me explain.
Tonight we're celebrating the 5 year anniversary of our first date by hitting up our favourite restaurant. Yes, that's right, with four kids in the house and a crazy schedule this week we've carved out some time to celebrate what many would view as a minuscule milestone.
But it's not minuscule to us. It marks the day that neither of us saw coming. As I've said, marrying a man with three kids and an ex-wife was certainly NOT in my five year plan, and he definitely didn't see another marriage and baby in his future
As stepmoms, It's inevitable that at some point in time our husband and his ex-wife are going to make decisions that we do not agree with. Even though our input if often sought out, at the end of the day they get to make the final call, as they should.
I've learned (the hard way) that it's not worth spending time and energy enforcing rules that only you care about...
In fact, it's a sure way to look like an EVIL STEPMOM!