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5 Things I've Been Afraid to Tell You
Mar 5, 2018
5 Things I've Been Afraid to Tell You
Mar 5, 2018

Even though I'm an open book, for various reasons some topics don't make their way onto your screen... until now that is

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Mar 5, 2018
10+ Things Our Husband's Do That Drive Us Crazy!
Feb 18, 2018
10+ Things Our Husband's Do That Drive Us Crazy!
Feb 18, 2018

I asked you guys if your husband's bother you too (in that fun loving, pick up your god damn socks kind of way). 90% of you said yes, and well, the other 10 percent of you are liars

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Feb 18, 2018
CONFESSION: I'm losing sleep over Facebook. Seriously.
Feb 4, 2018
CONFESSION: I'm losing sleep over Facebook. Seriously.
Feb 4, 2018

All I want to do is open up the conversation about blended family life and debunk the stigma associated with being a stepmom! 

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Feb 4, 2018
THIRTY-TWO: The Most Heartbreaking & Rewarding Year Of My Life
Nov 14, 2017
THIRTY-TWO: The Most Heartbreaking & Rewarding Year Of My Life
Nov 14, 2017

While my 32nd year has been one of the most challenging and heart breaking years of my life, it has also been one of the best. 

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Nov 14, 2017
That time I literally hid from my husband's ex-wife
Oct 3, 2017
That time I literally hid from my husband's ex-wife
Oct 3, 2017

All of a sudden there I was. Hiding behind a fence from my husband's ex-wife. 

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Oct 3, 2017
Sometimes I feel like a fraud.
Sep 25, 2017
Sometimes I feel like a fraud.
Sep 25, 2017

Because the truth is, none of us have ALL the answers. Nobody has the perfect marriage, or the perfect kids, or the perfect life. 

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Sep 25, 2017
Please Stop Telling Me Not To Be Dependant On My Husband
Sep 14, 2017
Please Stop Telling Me Not To Be Dependant On My Husband
Sep 14, 2017

because guess what, he's pretty damn dependant on me too!

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Sep 14, 2017
25 Things You Didn't Know About Me....
Aug 9, 2017
25 Things You Didn't Know About Me....
Aug 9, 2017

Because lists like these are always fun!

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Aug 9, 2017
2017 Summer Reading List
Jul 24, 2017
2017 Summer Reading List
Jul 24, 2017

This summer I made the commitment to start reading more. 
So far I've done okay. By that I mean, I've managed to read one book. 
(Hey, when you were doing ZERO reading to begin with, it's pretty easy to make some progress) 

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Jul 24, 2017
What if I Didn't Marry a Man with Kids? Grieving the Life I Would Have Had
Jul 10, 2017
What if I Didn't Marry a Man with Kids? Grieving the Life I Would Have Had
Jul 10, 2017

My favourite quote is "change your thoughts and you'll change your world", once again this statement has proven to be true!

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Jul 10, 2017
The Stepmom Double Standard: You Can't Complain About Your Stepkids, EVER!
Jun 26, 2017
The Stepmom Double Standard: You Can't Complain About Your Stepkids, EVER!
Jun 26, 2017

Stepmom or "real" mom, sometimes you just need a break from the break!

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Jun 26, 2017
Why This Book NEEDS To Be On Your Summer Reading List
May 25, 2017
Why This Book NEEDS To Be On Your Summer Reading List
May 25, 2017

This book doesn't encourage you to not give a beep about ANYTHING.... it shows you how to direct your time and energy towards the things that are worth giving a beep about.  

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May 25, 2017
Okay, some Stepmoms ARE Evil
May 23, 2017
Okay, some Stepmoms ARE Evil
May 23, 2017

With the number of blended families and stepmoms in our Society, the stigma and assumptions often surprise me. Especially because I am connected with so many stepmoms who absolutely adore their stepchildren and treat them as they are their own. 

HOWEVER after I posted the rant, I receive a message from one of my Instagram Followers that brought me back to reality.  

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May 23, 2017
YOU have a choice. Wallow or Rise Above.
Apr 27, 2017
YOU have a choice. Wallow or Rise Above.
Apr 27, 2017

Look, I don't always post nitty gritty details about my own personal struggles, because I am very cognicent about how what I write affects the people in my family. The internet is forever, and I refuse to air my dirty laundry online. But make no mistake, it's not always rainbows & unicorns. From my experiences as a child of divorce all the way to a stepmom, like many of you, I have experienced abandonment, personal attacks, high-conflict situations, heartache and even accusations.

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Apr 27, 2017
10 Things I Want My Daughter To Know
Apr 18, 2017
10 Things I Want My Daughter To Know
Apr 18, 2017

I love this age. My daughter turns three in just under a month and I have to say this is my favourite age yet. Even though it is heart breaking that my baby girl, is no longer a baby girl, watching her to grow into the spunky, kind-hearted, funny girl that she is, makes my heart do things I didn't know were possible.  It's also makes me think... a lot. Specifically about who I am as a parent and what I want to teach this young impressionable little girl.  It's no longer about skin-to-skin and feeding schedules. It's about supporting her in becoming a caring, kind-hearted, successful and ambitious human being.

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Apr 18, 2017
It's been one of those weeks... Here's why I'm still smiling
Apr 13, 2017
It's been one of those weeks... Here's why I'm still smiling
Apr 13, 2017

Well hello, Thursday. All I can say is thank-goodness tomorrow is Good Friday and this week is wrapping itself up. 

Why?

Well, because it's been one of those weeks. Don't worry, nothing monumental or disastrous has happened. There hasn't been a crisis of any sorts. It's just that literally nothing has gone right. 
In fact, as I type this post I'm chuckling to myself at how things have gone down this week. It's been one crazy that random event after another.... 

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Apr 13, 2017
I grounded myself from my phone for the weekend... here's what happened!
Apr 4, 2017
I grounded myself from my phone for the weekend... here's what happened!
Apr 4, 2017

Most nights I lay awake worrying... and scrolling through my phone.  In the morning, I was so tired my face hurt. I couldn't get organized and despite a never ending to-do list, I couldn't seem to scratch things off.Instead, I caught myself meaninglessly scrolling through my social media feeds, responding to emails that could wait... and like I said, being unproductive!

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Apr 4, 2017
4 Reasons Why The Internet is P*ssing Me Right Off
Mar 30, 2017
4 Reasons Why The Internet is P*ssing Me Right Off
Mar 30, 2017

I normally keep things pretty positive around here. But today, I just need to get some things off my chest. It’s been weighing on me for a while now, and well… something needs to be said.
Today I am writing this post because the internet has been pissing me right off. Yes, that’s right the internet. Specifically, the people on the internet.
More specifically, the topic and issues that are getting so much attention from mothers. 
Day after day I find myself scrolling through my newsfeed asking myself, “why do they even care?”
Let me explain.

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Mar 30, 2017
The One Thing I Desperately Want For Our Girls, That I Am OH SO Lucky To Have
Mar 9, 2017
The One Thing I Desperately Want For Our Girls, That I Am OH SO Lucky To Have
Mar 9, 2017

Surrounding yourself with positive, supportive women who believe there is enough success to go around can make all the difference in the world! 

But there is something else I wish for them. Something that I am starting to realize JUST how lucky I am to have. 

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Mar 9, 2017
The GOOD, the bad & the ugly: This too shall pass
Mar 7, 2017
The GOOD, the bad & the ugly: This too shall pass
Mar 7, 2017

There will be a time when the kids are all grown-up. When co-parenting, child support, vacation schedules and all the tedious conversations that come with blended family life will no longer be part of your day-to-day.
 

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Mar 7, 2017
Our Journey to Baby Number 2: Every Month My Heart Breaks
Feb 21, 2017
Our Journey to Baby Number 2: Every Month My Heart Breaks
Feb 21, 2017

Over the past several months I’ve tried to play it cool when people ask whether or not we are going to have another baby. “We’re not trying to, but we’re not trying not to”. “We’re so busy, who knows if we can handle another child”. “Someday for sure, just waiting for the perfect time”
“We’re going to wait until after [insert next big event here] to start trying. The truth is, we have been trying for several months.  Hard. And we've had no luck. 

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Feb 21, 2017
Who knew the SAHM Stigma is actually a real thing? 5 Absurd Things Other Women Have Said To Me About Being A Stay-At-Home-Mom
Feb 8, 2017
Who knew the SAHM Stigma is actually a real thing? 5 Absurd Things Other Women Have Said To Me About Being A Stay-At-Home-Mom
Feb 8, 2017

I've made it no secret that every now and then, I am blown away by some of the things that come out of people’s mouths! The things that people have said about my role as a stay-at-home-mom/stepmom, working-at-home-mom… however you want to categorize me on any particular day, is no exception. 

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Feb 8, 2017
I'm Going To FREAKIN' ROCK Motherhood This Week - Here's My 10 Step Plan
Jan 15, 2017
I'm Going To FREAKIN' ROCK Motherhood This Week - Here's My 10 Step Plan
Jan 15, 2017

Last week my hairdresser and I had a brief conversation about motherhood, and the notion of having it all together.We both agreed, somedays we feel like we've totally rocked this whole motherhood gig and other days, well, not so much. 

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Jan 15, 2017
Why I'm Starting My New Years Resolutions Right NOW!!
Dec 14, 2016
Why I'm Starting My New Years Resolutions Right NOW!!
Dec 14, 2016

I am someone who love a fresh start... any chance to  reflect, plan and regroup. Monday's, September, January, the beginning of a new month. They all make me giddy!So giddy that this time, I'm not waiting for the beginning of 2017 to get started! I'm starting right NOW!

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Dec 14, 2016
Turning 31 + Personal Reflection + A Gift To The Stepmoms In My Community
Nov 12, 2016
Turning 31 + Personal Reflection + A Gift To The Stepmoms In My Community
Nov 12, 2016

Despite waking up to new pearl earrings from my amazing husband (thank-you babe, I promise not to lose this pair) the day was pretty much business as usual. Actually, it was a little more chaotic than usual.

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Nov 12, 2016
An Open Letter To The Woman Who Accused Me Of Trying To Replace My Step-Children's Mom
Oct 26, 2016
An Open Letter To The Woman Who Accused Me Of Trying To Replace My Step-Children's Mom
Oct 26, 2016

Your comment was a wonderful reminder of why I have chosen to be so open about life as a stepmom in the first place. 

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Oct 26, 2016
How Gratitude Changed My Stepfamily Life
Oct 7, 2016
How Gratitude Changed My Stepfamily Life
Oct 7, 2016

I used to think talking about gratitude was so cheesy! Now, it's how I get by. 

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Oct 7, 2016
When Almost Everything Is P*ssing You Off
Oct 3, 2016
When Almost Everything Is P*ssing You Off
Oct 3, 2016

Last night at about 8:30 pm, I made the strategic decision to call it a day. I put the whiney toddler to sleep, made sure the other kids were set up for the next day, crawled into my bed ...

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Oct 3, 2016
The Stupid Things People Say to Stepmoms (or me at least)
Sep 9, 2016
The Stupid Things People Say to Stepmoms (or me at least)
Sep 9, 2016

I've been in a "stepmom" role for about four years now. Does it make me a veteran? Hell no! But I think I have a pretty good grasp on things (most days anyway)

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Sep 9, 2016
When life gives you a sh*tty diaper ...
Aug 31, 2016
When life gives you a sh*tty diaper ...
Aug 31, 2016

Anywho, a few nights ago, we were sitting at my in-laws house, relaxing after a crazy day when we realized that our two-year-old did what two-year-olds do.... She pooped.

Rock paper scissors... 
Paper covers rock

Sweet! My husband was on diaper duty!

I sat back, all ready to pour a glass of vino and a lightbulb went off in my head!

I forgot the diapers at home. Yep! it was 8:50pm on Saturday night and I had a shitty baby sans diapers! 

I wanted to snap. I was so disappointed in myself and honestly my husband wasn't that thrilled with me either. All we had were three swim diapers and if you're familiar with them, they don't hold jack(shit).

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Aug 31, 2016

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LATELY ON INSTAGRAM

This morning was sh*tty. The hydro went out, we slept in, my coffee was cold, the buses were delayed, there was a tummy ache, I forgot picture day and my husband and I were apparently not on the same page (at all .... like at all at all) and the “to do list” just kept growing. (Does this sound like your morning too?) I may also have some major mom guilt about heading to @mom2summit in LA next week.... (which is ridiculous, I know...)
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Here’s the deal though. It’s still a good day. Everyone is healthy, and even though not everyone is happy in every particular moment, for the most part they are, and we are. We get so caught up in the hustle bustle and unforeseen chaos of our lives that we forget to stop and realize JUST how good things are, and just how blessed we are.
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Today, amongst all the organized (and unorganized chaos) of our day I can’t stop thinking about Toronto and all the families who’s lives were changed forever... and WHY!? It’s scary, it’s unsettling, it’s heartbreaking and it’s so damn unnecessary! No matter what we choose to say and how we choose to look at this, amongst all the love in this world, it’s also a really freaking scary place and nothing is guaranteed. Hug your babies, say you’re sorry, tell your loved ones just how much you do and be grateful for every moment... even the chaotic ones #prayfortoronto 📸@abbycampbelldesign
I officially know what I want for Mother’s Day - I want to lay in bed all day with books, and comfy clothes and someone to bring me food and refill my cup when it’s empty. I don’t think that’s too much to ask right?
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On another note I’m creating my summer/spring reading list. I’m diving into @gabbybernstein right now, but what else should I add to the list? @msrachelhollis Girl Wash Your Face is definitely on it too! .
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Enjoy your Sunday!!!
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📸 @abbycampbelldesign
Today this handsome, kind and talented guy turns 14! (When they say it goes fast, they mean it goes FAST) ... it takes about 4 minutes with him to see just how successful he’s going to be in life. Little does he know... he’s taught me more about parenting and the person I want to be, than anyone or anything else... clearly Reese thinks he’s pretty great too! 💕 #nohalvesaboitit #proudstepmom 📸 @nataalc

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11 Things I Wish I Knew During My First Year As A Stepmom
Apr 24, 2018
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Apr 24, 2018
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My Current Skin Care Routine | Jamie Scrimgeour
Apr 24, 2018
My Current Skin Care Routine | Jamie Scrimgeour
Apr 24, 2018
Apr 24, 2018
To the stepmom who feels "unappreciated" on Mother's Day
Apr 17, 2018
To the stepmom who feels "unappreciated" on Mother's Day
Apr 17, 2018
Apr 17, 2018

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