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This morning I woke up super anxious.
I had butterflies my stomach
A constant punch in the gut
I couldn’t quite get my breath

I spiralled worrying about shit that I have zero control over
Problems that don’t even exist
“What if’s” that I made up in my head

I haven’t talked a lot about my experience with anxiety. In fact I don’t think I ever have. But it’s been real for me. REALLY EFFIN’ REAL.

I’ve spent the night in the hospital because my chest hurt so bad I felt like I was having a heart attack.
I used to have to take medication to manage my stress.
Going to therapy at age 30 was the best thing I’ve ever done.

Today when I woke up this way, I knew exactly what to do.
I’ve done a lot of work to get to this point.

I went for a power walk.
Then I journaled it out.
I wrote down all the things causing me anxiety and then the reason why my reaction was not helping anything.
I talked myself out of it.
Right now I feel good.

I know this doesn’t work for everyone but I also know it can work for a lot of people.
We get in our own heads.
We stop taking care of ourselves.
We let shhhh we can’t control take up too much space.

Why disclose this very personal thing on this beautiful Monday night? Because right now... someone reading this is experiencing that punch in the gut feeling. They are spiralling. And they are scrolling through their feed for SOMETHING to inspire them.

Journal it out girl.
Mind over matter.
If you’re committed to doing the work, it can get better.
And hey... if that seems too far fetched, message me. I’m here. Seriously.

Happy Easter 💕

Reese begged everyone to get up for hours and now the teenagers are heading back to bed!

PS today, when you scroll through the gram and see everyone’s picture perfect Easter moments ... remember.... that is all it is... a moment, a glimpse, a curated photo amongst the nitty gritty of real life... now go enjoy your own! Because you have those moments too!

Every few weeks someone asks why I don’t post more pictures of my stepkids.

It goes a little something like this.

They’re like... “it seems like you show favouritism to your daughter... how do you think your stepkids feel when they see so many picture of your daughter... and very few of them?” And then I’m like...
“Before I answer this question,
why don’t you take a couple seconds and REALLY think about how a 16, 15 and 12 year old would feel about being plastered all over their stepmom’s blog and Instagram... ya I thought so”

I pick and choose my moments.
I respect their privacy.
I’m careful not to push it.

Sorry. No story here.
That’s all I’ve got.
Happy Easter ✌🏼
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This week I was reminded how hard being the second wife can be.

I was reminded why I started this whole thing in the first place.

In fact, I felt very similar to the way I felt during that first year as a stepmom when I sat on our bathroom floor, with a glass of wine, bawling my eyes out, wondering what the heck I was thinking marrying a man with kids and an ex.

Now there will be people who read this and think “why would she say this on the internet?? Why would she tell people she is so affected”

Well that night, almost 7 years ago I realized that most of the support for stepmoms didn’t resonate with me. It was too negative. Very few real life tips for how to make it work.

That night I decided to start a blog

Now almost 7 years later 30 000+ stepmoms look to me to keep it real.

Almost 7 years later 30000+ stepmoms come to me for the tips and strategies.

But even though the internet has labeled me as an “expert”, I still struggle. Everyone does.

Few things annoy me more than an expert who pretends like they have this perfect life. I don’t.

Even though I am so grateful for my family and the life we have, almost 7 years later being a stepmom is still:
Hard
Confusing
Frustrating
Consuming
Debilitating

I’m not going to sugarcoat that.

So if you’re looking for a stepmom who has achieved perfection, this page isn’t for you. If you’re looking for one who is in the trenches with you, and sharing the lessons I learn along the way... I’m your girl... Now .... it’s the long weekend... after this week, I need some GD wine 🍷🍷

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