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OUR BLENDED FAMILY BEHIND-THE-SCENES

YOU Q and I A

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Don’t like your life?
Unhappy with how things are going?
Then stop b*tching, stop dwelling and get up and do something about it.
If you want change in your life then it’s up you to make it happen.
You’re not going to change your husband, or your kids, or your stepkids, or your husbands ex or your in-laws or that snotty mom at the hockey arena.
The only person you can control is you.
So make the decision.
Decide that you’re done with this shhhh
Decide to change your mindset. Decide you want something different
Or don’t...
But if you choose that route, don’t be surprised when next year at this time you’re hanging out in the same place as you are now.
With love
- Jamie

I swore I would never get another dog.
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I had a little Jack Russell/Pug cross when Darren and I got together, but after Reese was born we had to find him a new home. His hobbies included chasing friends down the driveway and dragging children across the floor. He was legit going to eat my baby. (He handled the adjustment from single life to stepmom of 3/mom of 1 way worse than I did... there was no rectifying the situation)
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Darren also had a dog when we first got together. I let her out one day to pee and she was hit by a car. Try being the stepmom responsible for the death of the family dog (no hate mail please, trust me I feel bad enough)
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Anyways I thought I was done. Until the moment of weakness when Charlie girl joined our crew. Even though she hates selfies... and my yoga pants are always covered in fur... she may have been the best move I made this year

My first two years as a stepmom, Christmas stressed me out:
• My husband missed the kids and I didn’t know how to support him
• I wondered why he wasn’t happy to have the alone time with me (when really it wasn’t that at all)
• I felt like we were battling the clock…There didn’t seem like enough time for the gingerbread houses and the Christmas traditions
• The schedule was a huge inconvenience. We couldn’t please extended family and it seemed impossible to make everything work.

Then when we had an ours baby I REALLY struggled.
• Do we wait for the kids to get here to celebrate, or do we do Christmas morning with her and then again with them? It’s not fair for her to wait right?
• But we also don’t want them to feel left out? But wait, they get two Christmas’ and she gets one?

By the looks of my inbox right now MANY of you are in the same place

The answer? Boundaries, mindset shifts, planning down to the last detail, managing your expectations, understanding fair doesn’t always mean equal, NOT overthinking and redefining what the “perfect” Christmas looks like…
Just know this - it really is possible to have a Very Merry Christmas amongst the extra stepfamily stressors!
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P.S the cart for the KICK-ASS Stepmom Project closes in 21 days. If you’re ready to stop over thinking, get on the same page as your husband and say goodbye to stepfamily drama (yes yes it is possible) then you should join us!

Today, she’s the youngest of a house full of four kids. Tomorrow, after school, she’ll commence a week where she reaps the benefits of the “life of an only child”
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I used to dwell on how much she’s missing out on when they go to their moms. Now I think about how lucky she is. The space, brings these guys closer. The space, allows me to give her one-on-one and not feel bad on the weeks when I’m juggling my attention with the three older ones.
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Anyone who sees these two together sees their special bond. Anyone who sees any of them together sees how amazing it is. Man they love their little sister.
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When I pictured having kids I didn’t picture custody schedules, step-parenting, and all that comes with it...
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And yes it is challenging at times. But here’s the thing... the more I think about it, the more this unconventional, modern day family is better than what I pictured for my life and for my baby. Well today at least 😉#nohalvesaboutit #blendedfamilylife #stepmomlove
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